This past week I’ve been reading “Awaken the Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins and discovered that I have a fear of rejection. It isn’t a minor fear because I rated it as my number one value that I wanted to avoid. Yikes!
At this time in my life I know that I must be willing to step outside of my comfort zone and care less about the fear of rejection and more about experiencing life while obtaining a job. Especially when interviewing for a position, I cannot take it personally if I am not hired. I must remember that I am good enough, I am good enough…. I know in my heart that I am more than good enough.
Since we are speaking about being good enough, there is a paragraph in “The Four Agreements” relating to rejection that I want to include in this post. It reads:
“And this is why we have a fear of being ourselves around others. Because we think everyone else will judge us, victimize us, abuse us, and blame us as we do ourselves. So even before others have a chance to reject us, we have already rejected ourselves.”
Mmm….It certainly leaves me with something else to consider. It’s just another form of rejection. Why open yourself up to possible rejection from someone else when you believe you are protecting yourself by rejecting yourself first. Because acceptance is so important to us, we may not be our authentic self and hide who we are. Do you hide who you are?
Did you know that researchers have found evidence that the pain you feel from rejection is similar to the pain you feel when you are physically injured? I can believe this because these last few months I especially feel as if I have been stabbed in the chest and can barely breathe. Since this is the case, I am going to now take two Tylenol, place a clean bandage on my chest, breathe into a brown paper bag and lay down. Ilene, just breathe….
Hugs,
Ilene
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